Last night I tried my dress on, and it felt tighter than ever. I knew that I needed to get serious about this weight loss thing, and put my money where my mouth was, or I wouldn’t be able to sit or eat on the big day. Before you judge, I used to think people who bought clothes too small with the hopes of fitting into it by a certain big date were kind of crazy, too. Yet, here I am! Here’s what helped me overcome a road bump in my diet (which I have used in life in general), and have me feeling pretty confident about this weight loss goal ahead of me. As I sit here blogging, my stomach is making all kinds of noises of protest, yet I remain strong on day 2 in a row of my diet/exercise regimen!
1. Identify the Problem and the Cause: Example “I can’t lose weight because I can’t stick to a diet/exercise format for longer than 2 days in a row.”
2. Tell People About your Problem: This is part of admitting that you have a problem, and it also helps you to verbalize a mish mash of feelings and frustrations into words. Try talking about it to people that you know and trust. Most likely, someone will have a great idea, or valuable advice from their own experience to shed light on the problem. You don’t know everything! A third party perspective has a clearer view, and in no time you will have a viable solution(s) to set about step 4. “I’m trying to lose weight to fit into my dress, but I can’t seem to stick to a diet/exercise long enough to see any results.”
3. Ask for Help 3 Times: If the above people haven’t offered already, reach out to them, be they a friend, an expert, a peer, or someone more senior than you. Just ask three different people who ARE NOT directly related to you, and not your boss. Try to go to someone outside of your family, and try to find three different people.
Family can be a great support, but often mom and/or dad, despite all of their good intentions, will have ulterior motives and preconceived judgements and limitations/expectations placed on you, even unbeknownst to themselves. It’s great to keep family in the loop, especially if you have an existing supportive relationship, that’s awesome, congrats! Even still, get the additional opinions of these third parties. You will be surprised by how many people actually want to help you, and share what they know!!! I cannot stress this step enough. It took a long time for me to learn this. A lot of smart people are not used to asking for help, or admitting they are not able to solve something simply because they did not encounter such problems growing up and aren’t trained to properly handle such a situation. Other times, silence has to do with shame and embarrassment. Perhaps you think that if you don’t talk about it, no one will know, and it will be like it didn’t happen. Or another variation, if people don’t know what you are going for, then no one will know if you didn’t get it. These are normal feelings, but you need to be honest with yourself, and open yourself up to a world of opportunities if you want to get ahead in the world in an efficient manner. It’s as easy as asking someone, “Do you have any advice?”
4. Set a Goal and Plan of Attack: Do your research. Be honest with yourself about what you are willing and able to accomplish. For example: I can lose 15 lbs in 4 months. I can’t expect to lose 15 lbs in a week. That’s unreasonable. “I will not partake in carbs or juice. I will drink my coffee black. I will exercise x min a day. I will have one cheat day where I eat whatever I want, 1 time per week, if I stick to the rules for the other 6 days” See 4 Hour Work Week.
5. Get a Coach or a Support Group: This ensures that you check in with someone. You can talk about minor set backs before they become failures. You can bounce ideas off each other. What worked well, what didn’t work so well? I knew that I needed a coach, someone to command me to do pushups, so I turned to a virtual coach!
I have the NTC Nike Training Club on my app for a structured 30-45 min conditioning and toning routine. NTC tracks how often I complete a workout, and gives me badges when I do complete one, which satisfies the first-grader in me.
Still, how would I track what I ate? There is an awesome app for that too, Lose it! app. Tracks my diet and exercise, and has an extensive database of foods and their calorie content. It is nothing short of amazing. I also consolidate my diet and exercise data for the day into one place, right here! I plan to track my weight every few days, and document my chest-waist-hip measurements. I was also inspired and amused by the comments on the 4 Hour Work Week Blog, so that counts as a virtual support group, too, where they ask important questions, such as”What about soy milk?”
For the first time since I started blogging, I feel like I am actually going to overcome this road block with the help of my virtual coaches and my friends. Yes, I am lucky enough to have a living breathing coach, a tough cookie who is lord of the fast, and who sprinkles my day with diet wisdom 🙂 Check out her blog at Daily Love Affairs!
My dinner plate accompanied with a glass of water and herbal tea (Okay…so there was actually 3x the amount of chicken eaten than you see pictured). A little protein doesn’t hurt according to 4-Hour Body. Check out the rest of the plate (7:00 stir fried garlic and spinach) (2:00 pork with lima beans and red bell pepper) (11:00 grilled chicken with mushrooms from a local Italian restaurant)”]
Hope this helps! – The Housedaughter