#1 Fight: The In-Laws
Even the kindest of families have trouble learning each other’s ways. You and your spouse might get caught in the crossfire. You might have different traditions or different ways of doing things. You might see your parents too little or too often. It takes a while to figure out what kind of relationship you should all have.
Solution: The most important part of dealing with in-laws is making sure that your allegiance and relationship with your parents and family or your spouse’s relationship with his family does not get in the way of your marriage. “You have to be on the same page with your spouse,” says Patterson. “You have to act like a gatekeeper to your own relationships.” In other words, don’t send your spouse to fight your battles with your family. If something your family is doing is interfering with the marriage, you must talk to your family and your spouse must talk to his or her family. And you must stand up for one another if necessary.
HD: In-laws…such a cliche, right? Laugh –> cry. Of course in-laws are different, you don’t marry relatives around here. Stand up for me, even if I’m wrong. Be the bridge, help us to get along.
#2 Fight: Miscommunication
Marriage has a way of making it difficult for couples to communicate. It’s easy to cross signals or hold back your true feelings about something to avoid arguing.
Solution: Honesty is the best policy in marriage as in life. “Don’t make assumptions,” says Patterson. “Be clear and remember sarcasm does not work because it gets hurtful and confuses the issues.” Tell it like it is and your spouse will respect you and – if he or she truly loves you – will respond.
HD: No Comment
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